I guess I can clue you into what got me out of my tranny delusions phase
. Consider talking to them about how their entire lives will revolve around dependence. Dependence on big pharma to give them medicine, dependence on others to validate their "gender", dependence on the state to protect them from people who would rather see them dead. Ask them if they're really comfortable having to maintain the highest form of delusion for the rest of their lives. If they're comfortable permanently lowering the density of their bones, giving themselves kidney stones from HRT, slowly becoming incapable of producing children. Are they really going to spend hundreds every single month to freeze their sperm? Can they afford this lifestyle? The minute shit hits the fan everything they're working towards goes out the window. Perhaps being a tranny has some inherent sexual value now, but if they are the leftists you describe they should be in agreement that the world is fucked and this corporatist system is fated for collapse. They aren't going to fare well in a collapse as a tranny.
I still think you should just call them retarded degenerate faggots and find something else to do or some new friends. These aren't people worth protecting. You aren't being a "good friend" by being loyal to women, fags, and trannies. You're being a complacent retard. Loyalty to other people is something that only should occur with tangible friends you know in real life. This is where loyalty exists, with people that can physically save you from another human trying to do you harm. Online friendships are entertaining and can be comfy, but like your tranny friends you're delusional if you think they should be valued in the way you're valuing them. You aren't a heroic loyal friend, you're scared of not having anyone to talk to. You're scared of being alone with your own autistic thoughts and so you're trying to rationalize being friends with people who diametrically oppose your world view.